Death and dying tend to awaken different states of presence in people. One person may be very demonstrative in his or her expressions of grief. Someone else may choose to be more reserved. Still, another may become angry. We can not assume how we, or others, will be present, or “show up”, in death or dying. The state of presence surrounding death and dying is a manifestation unique to each person. The same way we respect each person’s choices in life and living, we must do the same with their chosen state of presence in death and dying.